{"id":5280,"date":"2017-04-06T08:18:22","date_gmt":"2017-04-06T08:18:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.discovery-performance.com\/?p=5280"},"modified":"2017-04-06T08:18:22","modified_gmt":"2017-04-06T08:18:22","slug":"seek-first-understand-understood-7-habits-highly-effective-people-explained","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/seek-first-understand-understood-7-habits-highly-effective-people-explained\/","title":{"rendered":"Seek first to understand then to be understood: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People explained"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s time for habit five of seven in our 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em> blog series!<\/p>\n

If this is the first time you have heard about this series we\u2019re sharing, the aim is to provide a reminder of Covey\u2019s ever-valuable habits, with a personal leadership twist. Each blog gives you insight into each habit and provides tools to help you develop these highly effective behaviors.<\/p>\n

Collect all seven<\/strong> habits crib sheets (links at end of this post) for a complete guide to developing effective personal leadership through the lens of Covey\u2019s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/em>. The habit we\u2019re honing in on this week is number five, Seek first to understand then to be understood.<\/p>\n

What is Habit Three?<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

Seek<\/em><\/strong> first to understand then to be understood<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s define it<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

This habit is 100% concerned with listening<\/strong> \u2013 listening attentively and not jumping to \u2018advice\u2019 or \u2018solution\u2019 mode too hastily.<\/p>\n

What does it mean?<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.\u201d<\/em> – Stephen Covey<\/p>\n

It\u2019s likely that, naturally, you seek first to be understood. We are often so intent on getting our point across in a conversation that we only partially listen to what the other participants are saying. In doing this we are not truly communicating, which leads to confusion, mixed messages and a lack of clarity (not good communication!) What Covey suggests we do is listen emphatically. <\/strong>Listening emphatically is listening without jumping to one of four responses: agreeing\/disagreeing, asking (often loaded) questions, advising and interpreting the situation in your way.<\/p>\n

Why is it important?<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

Communication is one of the most important skills in life and one that is absolutely crucial to successful business.<\/p>\n

When we listen emphatically we try to understand the situation through the other person\u2019s eyes and in doing this, we can create more win-win situations<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I hope there are some useful things in here for you to take away and have a think about. Look out for the next in our \u2018seven habits\u2019 series, \u2018Synergise.<\/p>\n

Catch up on the other posts in this series:<\/p>\n

Habit One: Be Proactive<\/a>
\nHabit Two: Begin with the end in mind<\/a>
\nHabit Three: Put first things first<\/a>
\nHabit Four: Think win-win<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s time for habit five of seven in our 7 Habits of Highly Effective People blog series! If this is the first time you have heard about this series we\u2019re sharing, the aim is to provide a reminder of Covey\u2019s ever-valuable habits, with a personal leadership twist. Each blog gives you insight into each habit […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":29773,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_breakdance_hide_in_design_set":false,"_breakdance_tags":"","footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[20,17],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5280","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","category-news"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5280","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5280"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5280\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/29773"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5280"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5280"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/discovery-adr.com\/us\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5280"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}